White
Stillness, breath, and the classical root. Where the practice begins.
- Tantra Illuminated — Christopher Wallis
- Tantric Quest — Daniel Odier
- The Radiance Sutras — Lorin Roche
- The Tantric Body — Gavin Flood
- Foundations
- The Serpent Power — Sir John Woodroffe (Arthur Avalon), 1919
Red
The body, sex, and energy in practice. Slow down, feel more.
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski
- The Art of Sexual Ecstasy — Margot Anand
- The Heart of Tantric Sex — Diana Richardson
- The Multi-Orgasmic Woman / Man — Mantak Chia
- Human Sexuality and Its Problems — John Bancroft
- Foundations
- Human Sexual Response — Masters & Johnson, 1966
Pink
Heart, relationship, polarity. How two people stay awake to each other.
- Mating in Captivity — Esther Perel
- The Way of the Superior Man — David Deida
- Journey of the Heart — John Welwood
- Foundations
- The Art of Loving — Erich Fromm, 1956
Black
Shadow, psyche, the nervous system. What runs you when you're not looking.
- Owning Your Own Shadow — Robert A. Johnson
- Anchored — Deb Dana
- The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk
- Polyvagal Safety — Stephen Porges
- The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy — Deb Dana
- How Do You Feel? — A.D. Craig
- Foundations
- Character Analysis — Wilhelm Reich, 1949
- Man and His Symbols — C.G. Jung, 1964
Dark
Kink, power, rope. Conscious play at the edge.
- Urban Tantra — Barbara Carrellas
- The New Topping Book / The New Bottoming Book — Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy
- The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage — Midori
- Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power — Kasia Urbaniak
- Existential Kink — Carolyn Elliott
- Foundations
- Erotism: Death and Sensuality — Georges Bataille, 1957
Yoga Mat
The one I actually use. Alignment lines on the mat, and grip that holds when the breath gets big.
Liforme →Blocks + Strap
Iyengar's tools. Cork blocks hold; a cotton strap gives you the length you don't have yet.
Cork blocks + strap →Meditation Cushion
Sit long enough for something to shift. A buckwheat zafu keeps the spine easy.
Buckwheat zafu →Massage Oil
Unscented, skin-safe, and enough of it. Sweet almond or jojoba for breast and body work.
Sweet almond oil →Eye Pillow
Weight on the eyes tells the nervous system to stand down. Lavender or plain.
Weighted eye pillow →Silk Blindfold
Take sight away and the rest of the body starts listening. Dark-shelf essential.
Silk sleep mask →Rope
Jute, synthetic, natural or dyed. The ropes I tie with, 15% off with my links.
Ropes + Resources →Candles
Knotty.Candles. Different scents for different moods: 15% off with my link.
Shop Knotty.Candles →Tantric Color Map
Five colors of Tantra. Find out which ones you're drawn to, and what that says about how you love.
Create your map →Nervous System + Intimacy Quiz
How does your body move in intimacy? 15 questions, four minutes, and a guide to your pattern.
Take the quiz →Human Design Chart
Pull your free BodyGraph and learn your Type, Strategy, and Authority. Then see what it means for your relationships.
Get your chart →Spicy Scene Builder
Design a scene for two. Pick the mood, the pace, the edge. Then go play.
Build a scene →Embodiment Rope Space
Learning rope in Cape Town? Weekly jams and beginner-to-intermediate workshops. Come as you are.
See classes →S.O.L.O Community
A Cape Town directory of conscious practitioners and events, many with online options. Looking for someone, or want to be found? Start here. You'll find me there too.
Sensuali
A directory and magazine for tantra, kink and sensual practitioners. I did an interview with them about Spiritual Kink.
Read the interview →VoudouRopes
My rope teacher. Her community is in Playa del Carmen, Mexico. Her online courses explore everything from self-tie to suspension. We co-host a yearly Shibari + Tantra retreat in October; come tie with us!
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