White
Stillness, breath, and the classical root. Where the practice begins.
- Tantra Illuminated — Christopher Wallis
- Tantric Quest — Daniel Odier
- The Radiance Sutras — Lorin Roche
- The Tantric Body — Gavin Flood
- Foundations
- The Serpent Power — Sir John Woodroffe (Arthur Avalon), 1919
Red
The body, sex, and energy in practice. Slow down, feel more.
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski
- The Art of Sexual Ecstasy — Margot Anand
- The Heart of Tantric Sex — Diana Richardson
- The Multi-Orgasmic Woman / Man — Mantak Chia
- Human Sexuality and Its Problems — John Bancroft
- Foundations
- Human Sexual Response — Masters & Johnson, 1966
Pink
Heart, relationship, polarity. How two people stay awake to each other.
- Mating in Captivity — Esther Perel
- The Way of the Superior Man — David Deida
- Journey of the Heart — John Welwood
- Foundations
- The Art of Loving — Erich Fromm, 1956
Black
Shadow, psyche, the nervous system. What runs you when you're not looking.
- Owning Your Own Shadow — Robert A. Johnson
- Anchored — Deb Dana
- The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk
- Polyvagal Safety — Stephen Porges
- The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy — Deb Dana
- How Do You Feel? — A.D. Craig
- Foundations
- Character Analysis — Wilhelm Reich, 1949
- Man and His Symbols — C.G. Jung, 1964
Dark
Kink, power, rope. Conscious play at the edge.
- Urban Tantra — Barbara Carrellas
- The New Topping Book / The New Bottoming Book — Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy
- The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage — Midori
- Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power — Kasia Urbaniak
- Existential Kink — Carolyn Elliott
- Foundations
- Erotism: Death and Sensuality — Georges Bataille, 1957
Yoga Mat
The one I actually use. Alignment lines on the mat, and grip that holds when the breath gets big.
Liforme →Blocks + Strap
Iyengar's tools. Cork blocks hold; a cotton strap gives you the length you don't have yet.
Cork blocks + strap →Meditation Cushion
Sit long enough for something to shift. A buckwheat zafu keeps the spine easy.
Buckwheat zafu →Massage Oil
Unscented, skin-safe, and enough of it. Sweet almond or jojoba for breast and body work.
Sweet almond oil →Eye Pillow
Weight on the eyes tells the nervous system to stand down. Lavender or plain.
Weighted eye pillow →Silk Blindfold
Take sight away and the rest of the body starts listening. Dark-shelf essential.
Silk sleep mask →Rope
Jute, synthetic, natural or dyed. The ropes I tie with, 15% off with my links.
Ropes + Resources →Candles
Knotty.Candles. Different scents for different moods: ritual, aftercare, or just the room. 15% off with my link.
Shop Knotty.Candles →Tantric Color Map
Five colors of Tantra. Find out which ones you're drawn to, and what that says about how you love.
Create your map →Nervous System + Intimacy Quiz
How does your body move in intimacy? 15 questions, four minutes, and a guide to your pattern.
Take the quiz →Human Design Chart
Pull your free BodyGraph and learn your Type, Strategy, and Authority. Then see what it means for your relationships.
Get your chart →Spicy Scene Builder
Design a scene for two. Pick the mood, the pace, the edge. Then go play.
Build a scene →Embodiment Rope Space
Learning rope in Cape Town? Weekly jams and beginner-to-intermediate workshops. Come as you are.
See classes →S.O.L.O Community
A Cape Town directory of conscious practitioners and events, many with online options. Looking for someone, or want to be found? Start here. You'll find me there too.
VoudouRopes
My rope teacher. Her community is in Playa del Carmen, Mexico. Her online courses explore everything from self-tie to suspension. We co-host a yearly Shibari + Tantra retreat in October; come tie with us!
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